Finding Grief Care

How to Find

the Right

Death Doula?

Sometimes a death doula is needed for just a few days; sometimes support can span months. Some people need help with preplanning, while others are looking for education, guidance around green burial, or support during the dying process. Death doulas wear a lot of hats, and many have particular areas of experience and specialization.

We’ve made it easy to connect with a doula who fits your needs. Choose one of the specialty buttons below to explore specific areas of support, or click All Death Doulas to see everyone and customize your search based on what matters most to you.

  • Death Douglas fill the gaps between hospice and funeral home often relying on time honored death Care practices

    All Death Doulas

    Death doulas wear a lot of hats! Their support can look very different depending on what you need and when you need it. Some step in months before a death to help organize plans, explore end-of-life options, and make sure important wishes are understood. Others may be called in during the final days to help coordinate care, hold space for vigils, and support loved ones through the dying process. Some even continue beyond the death, helping families explore home funerals and more personal ways to care for and honor the person who has died.

    There’s no one-size-fits-all approach. Each doula brings their own experience, skills, and areas of specialization. Click below to explore all death doulas and sort by the services, experience, and support that matter most to you.

  • A death doula can help you document your end of life wishes with Advanced Health Care Directives or POLST forms

    Advance Health Care Directives

    Your end-of-life plans are about much more than paperwork. They're an opportunity to put your personal, spiritual, and care preferences into words, clarify what matters most to you, and make sure your wishes are known. Some death doulas can help you complete Advance Care Directives and other important documents that provide clear guidance to your next of kin and loved ones if you're unable to speak for yourself. It's one of the most meaningful gifts you can give yourself and the people who may one day need to speak on your behalf.

  • Medical Aid in Dying is a legal option in many states for those who want autonomy at the end of life

    MAiD (Medical Aid in Dying) Doulas

    Medical Aid in Dying (MAiD) is a legal option in some U.S. states for people who meet specific eligibility requirements. Laws and requirements vary by state, so understanding what's available where you live is an important first step.

    Some death doulas have experience supporting individuals who choose MAiD, helping them navigate the process, prepare for the experience, and create meaningful time with loved ones. They may also offer guidance and support to family and friends before, during, and after the person's death. Explore the profiles below to connect with a doula whose experience and approach align with your needs.

  • Some opt to voluntarily stop eating and drinking to expedite death. Known by many as VSED.

    VSED (Voluntarily Stop Eating and Drinking) Doulas

    Voluntarily Stopping Eating and Drinking (VSED) is a personal end-of-life choice in which an individual who has decision-making capacity intentionally chooses to stop eating and drinking to hasten death. It is different from refusing food or fluids because of illness or loss of appetite, and it can be complex to navigate without thoughtful preparation and planning.

    Some death doulas have specific experience supporting individuals who choose VSED, helping them prepare, understand what to expect, coordinate with appropriate care providers, and consider the practical, emotional, and personal aspects of the process. Support may also extend to family members and loved ones before, during, and after the death. Because experience matters, finding a doula familiar with VSED can make an important difference. Explore the profiles below to connect with someone whose knowledge and approach align with your needs.

  • Plant medicine is commonly used at end of life because who doesn't want to be free from our own minds at the end of life!

    Doulas Who Support Plant Medicine

    Some people explore plant medicine as part of their end-of-life experience, whether for spiritual exploration, personal reflection, or other reasons. If this is a path you're considering, having a death doula who is open to alternative approaches and familiar with your choices can be an important part of your support team.

    Doulas in this category are supportive of clients who choose to explore plant medicine. Their role is to offer guidance, presence, and support around the experience—not to provide or administer the medicine itself. Explore the profiles below to find a doula whose perspective and approach align with yours.

  • Death Doulas who support the LGBTQIA+ community

    LGBTQIA Inclusive Doulas

    Everyone deserves to be seen, respected, and honored for who they are, especially at the end of life. Death doulas who support the LGBTQIA+ community understand that authentic care means honoring gender identity, chosen names, pronouns, relationships, and chosen family. They recognize the importance of respecting someone's identity throughout the dying process and beyond, including how they are remembered and honored after death.

    A doula in this category may or may not identify as LGBTQIA+ themselves, but they are committed to affirming and supporting the community. Explore the profiles below to find someone who understands what it means to honor the whole person, authentically and without assumptions.

  • Death Doulas for children who are dying

    Doulas for Children & Families

    When a child is facing the end of life, the needs of the entire family matter. Death doulas who support children and their families can help create space for meaningful conversations, meaningful moments, and opportunities for a child to express their wishes in ways that feel right for their age and circumstances. They may also help families navigate difficult conversations, create lasting memories, and find ways to honor the child's life while supporting parents, siblings, and loved ones along the way.

    Every family's experience is different, and the kind of support needed can vary. Explore the profiles below to find a doula with experience and an approach that may be right for your family.

  • Some death Doulas can help with funeral coordination like green burial, Sea Burial and water cremation

    Funeral Coordination

    When it comes to funeral options, most people are familiar with flame cremation and traditional burial. But there are other choices worth exploring, including green burial, water cremation (alkaline hydrolysis), natural organic reduction (human composting), and sea burial. What's available and legally permitted varies by state, and some options can take a little more coordination to arrange.

    Some death doulas have additional training or certification as funeral coordinators, bringing a deeper understanding of funeral planning, providers, and alternative options. If you're interested in exploring something beyond the familiar, a funeral coordinator can help you understand what's possible, navigate the details, and make arrangements that reflect your wishes. Explore the profiles below to find someone who can help you discover your options.

  • Vigils & Rituals are important at the end of life.  A death doula can help plan a vigil with personalized rituals.

    Vigils & Rituals

    A vigil or personal ritual can create meaningful time and space for connection, reflection, and saying goodbye. Whether you envision gathering family and friends at the bedside, creating a quiet moment of reflection, or bringing people together for a personalized ceremony, a death doula can help bring your ideas to life.

    Some doulas have experience organizing vigils and creating rituals that reflect a person's beliefs, values, traditions, and personality. From helping coordinate the details to guiding a gathering or ceremony, they can help create an experience that feels personal, intentional, and true to the person being honored. Explore the profiles below to find a doula who can help you make it happen.

  • A death doula can help care for the deceased after death with a gentle cleaning and shrouding

    After Death Care

    Sometimes, all you need is a little time with your person after they've died. We call this Honoring the Pause - creating space to slow down, be together, and say goodbye before your person is transferred into the care of a funeral home.

    A death doula can help gently wash, dress, or shroud your person, giving you the time and space to be present without having to navigate every detail on your own. Whether you're looking for an hour or two together or preparing for a home funeral, there are doulas experienced in caring for someone after death who can guide you through the process and help you explore what's possible.

  • Home Funerals are legal in every state, The Death Network can connect you with a home funeral guide or death doula

    Home Funeral Guides

    Did you know home funerals are legal in all 50 states? The rules and requirements vary, but families can often create a meaningful farewell at home that lasts anywhere from a few hours to several days. Some death doulas specialize in guiding families through the process, helping with ceremony, caring for the person who has died, and creating space for family and friends to gather, remember, and say goodbye. You don't have to know where to begin—an experienced guide can help you explore what's possible and make it your own.

  • Pet death Doulas help pets and their owners navigate the transition of death

    Pet Death Doulas

    Our pets are part of our families, and saying goodbye can be every bit as meaningful and emotional as any other loss. Pet death doulas help guide families through the final chapter of a beloved animal's life, honoring the bond they share and the unique personality that made their pet so special.

    Whether a pet is nearing the natural end of life, preparing for a planned goodbye at the veterinarian, or spending their final days at home, a pet death doula can help bring thoughtful planning, creativity, and a sense of calm to the experience. From creating meaningful rituals and special moments to helping families navigate the practical details, they offer support so you can focus on being present with your beloved companion.

How to Find the Right Death Doula

Finding the right death doula matters. Death is a profound transition and the final chapter in the circle of life, and having the right person beside you can make a meaningful difference in how you and your loved ones navigate it. Every doula brings different experience, perspectives and areas of expertise.

Not sure where to start? Click below and answer a few simple questions. We’ll help you narrow down the choices and find a death doula who may be the right fit for you.